To be a woman. To walk in both strength and grace. To carry both passion and sensitivity. To see the world through the female eyes. To find beauty in overlooked spaces. To carry and birth the future generations. To be both beautiful and powerful. It's so much more than the body parts.
I've struggled with the concept of being feminine and still being a feminist. Because of many twisted stereotypes and assumptions of feminism, I at first associated "feminist" strictly with removing the contract that said a woman's place is in the household, cooking, cleaning, and of course, looking flawlessly and unbreakably glamorous for her husband. This former standard of women in society is one that attempts to pre-determine my career, but I have aspirations that do not fit in these cookie molds, so they just won't do. I find women to be bold, powerful, spiritual and significant. A women's place therefore should be wherever she chooses to stand tall.
Womanhood is not defined by an A-line tea-cup dress, or an apron covered in baking powder. It's not defined by a lipstick color or a blow-out or a kitten heel. And with that, my heart strived to acknowledge and advocate for the women tossed aside for their non-conventional appearances or ambitions.
However, I realized that I had been mistaken in some important ways. Feminism is NOT about stripping the female sex from its femininity; it's about removing the tight, rigid and unrealistic lines in which past generations have assumed us to color. In fact, it's disproving the assumption that an individual's sexuality or appearance determines their capabilities.
I've experimented in many different realms of the fashion world. I've had "tom-boy" phases, retro phases when I mimicked the Notebook's costume designs in every way possible, and days (which have not seen an end yet....) where 90% of my closet consists of mustard yellow. When stripped of all trends, news, and comparison to the wardrobes of those around me, I find myself most drawn (fashion-wise) to minimalistic, dainty, feminine pieces. I want to wear these pieces because they are an expression of ME and my individuality - and whatever pieces those are not open for anyone else to make assumptions about my potential to be powerful, innovative, or a leader.
So, I am a feminine feminist. A feminist who is feminine because feminism enables and empowers me to be whatever type of woman I am designed to be, and to be worthy of love and embrace no matter how cropped or flaired my jeans are, or how short my hair is.
To the daughters, sisters, partners, wives, aunts, nanas, and mothers. Celebrating womanhood today and the irreplaceable role we are and contribute to this world.
Much much love to the ladies out there, in all shapes, colors, sizes, and styles.